Blog - Seth Perler

At Home Learning Tips With A Pro

Please CLICK above to share https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgGOoV9Fz7U&t=403s Parents, here I chat with Debbie Reber about 7 best practices for home learning and in the second half, we answer many of the viewer's questions. This was originally a FB live webinar on 4/22/20. Fill Out This Form To Get Your Free PDF Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support my work, please CLICK below to share and please click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & … [Read more...]

Bloom’s Taxonomy

Please CLICK above to share. Parents, understanding a bit about Bloom's Taxonomy can be a tremendous help when you are trying to help your child with Executive Function challenges. It can help inspire you to help your child THINK AT HIGHER LEVELS! We want kids to develop "critical thinking skills" so they can better navigate life. This vides breaks down some pertinent ideas for you. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. … [Read more...]

Do I get depressed? Executive Function challenges can weigh me down

Please CLICK above to share. Students, many people get depressed, but there is a lot of misunderstanding, and unfortunately, many people do not have good strategies for working through depression. In this video, I tell you my story and give you real strategies that can help. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you -Seth Reading the … [Read more...]

Most Important Thing I did to Change My Life with Executive Function challenges

Students, life is hard sometimes. We all want to change in certain areas of life, but change often takes a lot of time and energy. But it is DEFINITELY possible!!!! This video will teach you my #1 most important key to change so you can apply these ideas to your life. 🎦 YouTube: Visit my official YouTube channel here. Subscribe, like & comment to support my work 👉 Share: To support me, please *CLICK* at the top to share on FB or Pinterest. ✏️ EF101: Here’s my jumpstart course … [Read more...]

Students, HOW & WHY to take COVID-19 seriously: w/ Dr. Campbell

Please CLICK above to share. Parents & teachers, please watch this BEFORE sharing with your teen. Here, Dr. John Campbell and I dive deep into the pandemic, but we are speaking TO teens, because there aren't' many people telling THEM what they need to know. Beware: This talk is very raw, straight talk, honest, open, and DIRECT. we hope it helps! ps-I have been following Dr. John Campbell's amazing youtube for many weeks - this is where I have been getting my daily updates on the … [Read more...]

Unrealistic Perception of Time Needed to do Schoolwork, Executive Function Problem

Please CLICK above to share. One of the BIGGEST problems that hold back students who struggle with executive function is the inability to have a realistic perception of the time and energy needed to complete schoolwork and responsibilities. Students can absolutely get better at this if they have a good understanding of the problem and solutions. This video explores this topic in-depth to give you real insights you can apply. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support … [Read more...]

How Adults can help HSPs (Highly Sensitive People and students)

Please CLICK above to share. Parents and Teachers, when we have a good grasp on the needs of Highly Sensitive Students, we can be more helpful to them. This video explores the issue so you can feel more empowered. Check out my pandemic hub here for more COVID-19 resources. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you — … [Read more...]

AWESOME Advice from MASTER TEACHER to students, parents, and teachers

Please CLICK above to share. Parents and teachers, Ellen is a ROCKSTAR teacher with tremendous wisdom for you all during this crazy time! Check it out. NOTE: Ellen is speaking to students in the beginning of the video, then there is a message for parents, then a message for teachers. Check out my pandemic hub here for more COVID-19 resources. To support my work, please CLICK below to share and please click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank … [Read more...]

Students, planting seeds for your LIFE

Please CLICK above to share. Students, life is precious. Every moment is a moment when we are investing. Sometimes the investment is wise, sometimes it is foolish. Some people blindly waste opportunities for planting seeds that will help us in the long run. This video explores these issues fo you. Check out my pandemic hub here for more COVID-19 resources. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to … [Read more...]

Pivots & Energy, how to help students with executive function now

Please CLICK above to share Parents, teachers and students are all pivoting a lot right now because of the pandemic. If we adults understand WHERE our energy goes, we can be more helpful to the kids we are trying to educate and help. Here I explain a fantastic model for helping you understand HOW to pivot while being mindful of WHERE our energy is being "spent". Check out my pandemic hub here for more COVID-19 resources. To support my work, please CLICK below to share and … [Read more...]

Students: How to GoogleCal your Life

Please CLICK above to share. Students, here I show you a quick idea of how you can organize your life easily and have a great WEEKLY printable calendar to help you visualize your weeks better. Also, this will help you have less stress, get more out of your education, have more free time and more fun. Check out my pandemic hub here for more COVID-19 resources. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to … [Read more...]

What do parents really want? (executive function & 2e Twice-exceptional)

Please CLICK above to share Parents, there is one particular sentence I've heard more than any other in over 20 years of working with families. This sentence is so insightful that it should drive a lot of our decisions. In this video, I completely unpack it for you in a useful and practical way so you can use these ideas to help your child. To support my work, please CLICK below to share and please click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you … [Read more...]

What if???

Please CLICK above to share. Students, ANXIETY is a common problem nowadays and it's particularly tricky to overcome. It takes time, persistence, and tools. We do NOT need to be ruled by anxiety. This video dives deep into a specific strategy that can be a giant part of the solution. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you — … [Read more...]

My child isn’t taking ownership

Please CLICK above to share. Parents of students who struggle with executive function have a difficult time trying to decipher how to empower their child to take ownership. They try to help, but is the help actually holding your child back? When does a parent need to detach and let go in a healthy way? How do parents set healthy boundaries? When is a parent enabling and doing too much? This video explores HOW to transfer ownership from a parent so a child can take more ownership of her own … [Read more...]

Catch ’em being good, supporting executive function

Please CLICK above to share. Often our kids feel like they aren't noticed for what they do "right". They feel scrutinized, which can get exhausting and can be demotivating. The saying "catch em' being good" is a powerful idea that I explore in this week's video. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you — Seth Reading the … [Read more...]

3 reasons I failed out of college with Executive Function challenges

I have always had executive functioning struggles, and they caught up with me when I attempted to go to college. I was not ready, but I didn't know that. I wanted the benefits of college without having to do the work, I thought I could somehow take the quick elevator to success. This video tells my ADHD and executive function college story. I hope you find it insightful and that it helps you get some great ideas and clarity because failing college is not fun. 🎦 YouTube: Visit my official … [Read more...]

Beware of the PARENTAL PENDULUM

Please CLICK above to share. Pendulum swings, parents enable, help too much, reminders, nagging, then I won't help at all response-ability Seek balance with pre-convo then heart to heart about pendulum and ask THEM so there is buy-in and so you are prepared next time. The goal is to HEAR each other (secure convo). Write it down and post it so you remember. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my … [Read more...]

Executive Function advice to my younger self (parents on how to help their kids)

Please CLICK above to share Below is a post using your experience so we can help others based on this question. I have enjoyed reading your excellent responses and the honest vulnerability you shared. Thank you for taking the time! -Seth THE QUESTION FOR PARENTS: "Knowing what I now know about Executive Function, what key advice would I give to my younger self about how to support my child with executive function challenges?" (teachers, feel free to chime in here as well and adapt it to … [Read more...]

My kid wants to be treated like an adult

Please CLICK above to share. My kid won’t listen to me ”WHY don’t you trust me? I’ve got it. Get off my back. Wants to be treated like an adult but doesn’t act like it You parents have a hard job of deciphering when to back off and when to set a boundary The brain is developing, not good future thinking yet but is starting to push off the walls of the pool, wants independence Try secure attachment, hearing, seeing, understanding Not fixing, rationalizing, preaching … [Read more...]

Blake Boles & kids who don’t fit in the school “box”

Please CLICK above to share. BONUS VIDEO with Blake Boles: This video is for parents who have a child who really doesn't fit into the school "box". Here I talk with my friend Blake Boles, a great guy who is my goto person when I have questions about alternative schooling options. Here's the link to Blake's Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/blakeboles/why-are-you-still-sending-your-kids-to-school/ And here's the link to the book's home on his personal … [Read more...]

What if parents struggle with it too?

Please CLICK above to share “Hi Seth, I heard you on the Tilt Parenting podcast and love everything you have to say. My son is 2e, but is only in third grade, so I think he's still too young to benefit from your coaching. I was wondering if your blog has ever addressed what to do if a parent also suffers from executive functioning issues. Going through my son's journey with him made me realize that I also have ADHD (inattentive type) and a lot of executive functioning issues. I'm really … [Read more...]

Executive Function: Nature or Nurture?

Please CLICK above to share. This vlog is based on this email from a parent: “I have watched so many of your videos. I am really looking forward to the next ones. My entire family watches your videos and they have helped tremendously. Perhaps you will address why some kids are born with amazing EF while others, equally as intelligent, have poor EF. My husband has poor EF and surely at his age, his brain is fully developed. Is there really hope for my child or his he genetically … [Read more...]

The most IRRESPONSIBLE person I know (Executive Function challenges)

Please CLICK above to share. Students who are labeled as "irresponsible" have executive function challenges. Calling someone irresponsible in order to somehow motivate them, does not work. Instead, it causes shame and more resistance. If we really want to empower these kids, we need to compassionately help them learn strategies. This video explores this issue. If you appreciate my work, please share, comment, and subscribe. Love my work and want to give? Click … [Read more...]

Is ADHD Fake?

Please CLICK above to share. Here is a story about a spouse that “doesn’t believe in ADHD.” It is sad when a child falls through the cracks because an adult isn’t willing to learn about what’s going on. People are sometimes afraid and stuck and can’t or won’t be honest with themselves. Sometimes we can’t deal with being uncomfortable. If problems with attention, focus, and concentration continue, the compounding negative impact is no joke. These kids must learn the SKILLS of focus in order to … [Read more...]

Do this DURING winter break

Please CLICK above to share. Parents beware, THIS is important! You know how I talk about the DIP pattern? Well, the final phase of it is PARENTAL AMNESIA and it’s a problem many people aren’t even aware of. This problem happens right AFTER the semester ends, and parents make some common mistakes that I dissect here. I’ll tell you EXACTLY what to do to help your child during this amnesia time. Click HERE for the accompanying free PDF checklist to help you with the process. Click here to … [Read more...]

Students, how to FAIL this semester

Please CLICK above to share. Parents, this one is for students, but you should watch it too. Here I discuss 20 tips for FAILING this semester. Of course, the intention is to be wildly successful, but this video is a fun exploration of real issues, and it WILL help. You can read all of the tips in detail from the transcript below. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & … [Read more...]

New Parenting Podcast with Wendy Bertagnole: EF & Parenting

**Please CLICK above to share Hi all, here’s a new podcast I did with Wendy Bertagnole on executive function for Exceptional Parenting. In this episode today you’ll learn about EF. If you have a child who struggles with homework, grades, resistance, overwhelm, motivation, procrastination, underachievement, organization, focus, study skills and time management, executive function could be at the core of what they are missing. EF is the root of so many problems that can look like … [Read more...]

2e Twice Exceptional Learners Podcast with Stephanie Pitts & Rachel Kapp

*Please CLICK above to share Hey everybody, here's a great new educational therapy podcast with Rachel Kapp and Stephanie Pitts where we dive into 2e learners. Here we chat about the different kinds of twice exceptionalities, executive functioning and the importance of relationships. We highlight the goal of securely attached, independent and successful adults who use their gifts and affinities to thrive. We further chat about emotional and physical regulation. Check it out and listen on … [Read more...]

Dear teachers, an open convo with Debbie Reber and Seth

Please CLICK above to share. SHARE THIS WITH TEACHERS WHO MIGHT BENEFIT! Here's a new vlog with Debbie Reber of the TILT Parenting Podcast. This is not my typical vlog. Parents, this one is for teachers, BUT you will get a lot out of it. This was based on a parent question Debbie Reber and I get all the time, "HOW do we get teachers on board who don't get it? Schools just don't get neurodiverse kids!" Teachers, we recorded this just for you to shed light on the situation, and … [Read more...]

ANXIETY & kids, a deeper look

Please CLICK above to share! Parents, Anxiety for students can be DEBILITATING, so we want to do everything we can to help our kids. Some people have NEVER experienced "real" anxiety, hopefully, they can understand better through this video. Here's a different take in this video so we can see how the Nervous System works and how we can use it to work through anxiety in powerful ways. I explain specifically what we adults "want" to be aware of so we can help. I discuss how anxiety can be … [Read more...]

#1 Tip for students at end of semester

Please CLICK above to share. Parents, this one is for students. Check it out and share with your child if you think they'd benefit. The time AFTER Thanksgiving and BEFORE winter break is critical because a lot of students who are not on top of it, fool themselves into thinking they can finish the semester well, yet they are not taking the action that will get results. So many end up finding out they failed a class AFTER it's too late. This video breaks down my #1 key strategy for … [Read more...]

7 End of Semester tips for parents

Please CLICK above to share. Parents, here's how to help your student finish fall semester strong. (NOTE- In-depth, free webinar coming soon on my site to help you help your child at end of semester.) If your child is struggling at this point in the semester, it WILL NOT FIX SELF. Don’t give up, and pick your battles wisely. Here are some quick notes: Know it’s EF: they want to do well but don’t know how. Compassionate support. RELATIONSHIP: 3:1, fun, connect first, encourage them, … [Read more...]

Students, how to not fail at end of semester

Please CLICK above to share Students, "Hail Mary" time is the time at the end of the semester when SO MUCH WORK is piled up that you don't even know where to start. A lot of students procrastinate at this overwhelming point and end up failing classes as a result. THIS video gives you 5 big tips to help you get through it with MORE FUN & FREEDOM and less stress. Please CLICK below to share … [Read more...]

Executive Function & PROCRASTINATION. A breakdown.

By the end of this vlog, you’ll get 2 things: Understand exactly how procrastination fits into Executive Function and how it impacts students Know my #1 key strategy for what to do about it I also cover: EF aspects Two sides of the same coin Self-starting, task initiation, get the train going Procrastination, unmotivated, undisciplined, stuck Do not have skills to self-start The impacts and consequences of procrastination Grades Relationships Emotional … [Read more...]

PROCRASTINATION! How to do a STUDY SPRINT and break through it

Please CLICK above to share. Procrastination is a massive problem for my students who struggle with executive function. Unfortunately, these students have all sorts of consequences as a result, including late work, missing work, incomplete work, zeroes, falling grades, homework battles, overwhelm, stress, etc.. This video teaches students how I use my 3-30-3 study sprint method to break through procrastination and get stuff done. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support … [Read more...]

Students, I know you hate planning, BUT…

Students, I know you hate planning, BUT... Please *click* below to share … [Read more...]

How to get teenager to be more receptive to the help her parents are trying to give her?

Please CLICK above to share. This video is based on the following parent email: “I subscribed to your blog last week. I found you in my efforts to find resources to help my 17-year old daughter. Based on what I have read, she is asynchronously developed, and has executive function challenges-deal with. She has been difficult and defiant since she was 15. She won’t take instructions from me and my husband. Can you provide some advice on how to get a teenager like her to recognize/accept she … [Read more...]

The questions students SHOULD be asking themselves

Please CLICK above to share. Students with executive function challenges benefit from being taught directly about strategies for school and life success then implementing them for a looong time. After many years of working with these kids, there are definitely a handful of ESSENTIAL questions they SHOULD be asking themselves on a daily basis in order to effectively track the systems they need to be maintaining. When students DON'T learn to ask these questions, things fall apart, they … [Read more...]

How We Prioritize Homework

Please CLICK above to share. For students who struggle with Executive Function, prioritization can be a nightmare and can cause them to waste a ton of time and energy trying to get things done. In this video I describe the important aspects of the problem and HOW I help students who are resistant to planning, learn how to get through that resistance and plan, AND prioritize how they will execute the plan in a sane and thoughtful way. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To … [Read more...]

share with PRINCIPALS to make life easier for EVERYONE

Please **CLICK** above to share Parents & teachers, this one is for you to share with PRINCIPALS to make life easier for EVERYONE. The problem is that I am constantly trying to help kids figure out how to navigate the crazy complexity of the portals to see what they need to track. Sometimes there are multiple portals for one teacher, and when a student has 7 teachers, it's crazy to figure out who is posting what and when!!!! We need leadership to guide us into sanity. This video … [Read more...]

Will your child even have a future

Please CLICK above to share. Here are two about Greta: Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you — Seth Reading the transcript? Great! We're currently uploading hundreds of transcripts so you can read them asap, but they are NOT all edited yet. This is a big process. If you notice anything wrong and want to help us, feel free … [Read more...]

Sensitive hearing? How to help?

Please CLICK above to share. Many students have "sensitive" hearing. They hear EVERYTHING, and it interferes with executive function. Do not underestimate the impact this can have on your child, even though it may be difficult to identify that they have this heightened sensitivity. Here I break down the problem a bit and give you a fantastic, inexpensive solution. This one is great for teachers as well. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the … [Read more...]

Spoke theory and patient persistence = win

Here is the summit link: https://executivefunctionsummit.com/ "So I thought I would give an update from yesterday and this is for the win! After my brief rant/post (which was self-care & self reg), I was able to regroup. I created a safe space for my son, who said, "I hate homework". I told him I was not going to get mad over homework anymore. I started with a 2 mins. timer and stuck to it. We were able to get 4 out of 5 pgs done over several short sessions. Then we were exhausted and … [Read more...]

2e Twice-Exceptional tips for b2s

What special considerations might parents consider during back to school time, for 2e or Twice Exceptional learners? Regardless of age, here are some of my general key thoughts. Oh, and I did leave out one important consideration in this video, reports! If there is paperwork that the teachers should know about, definitely consider how you can best to share the information. You might have info in neuropsych reports, IEP, 504, or RTI documentation, etc.. In this video I review 2e, discuss … [Read more...]

HOW to ask about school: “School’s fine, now stop bugging me”

Please CLICK above to share. Here's a sort of "micro-MASTERCLASS" for ya. In this video, I teach parents in-depth about the problems with asking our kids what they have for homework and specifically HOW to ask the right questions in order to get MEANINGFUL answers so you can help. Here's the PDF: SethPerlerPlanningquestionseachnight Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel … [Read more...]

Paper or digital CALENDAR better? Why?

Please CLICK above to share. Should your child use a digital or paper planner? Is this even the right question? Planners are SUPER important, yet we often have students who do NOT know how to use them effectively. Here I'll tell you EXACTLY what you "should" be asking in order to set your child up for success. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! … [Read more...]

3 school PLANNER myths and what to do instead

Please CLICK above to share. In this video, I'll explain 3 big myths about planners/calendars/agendas and how adults try to help students use them. Then I'll give you guidance on what really matters when choosing the right planner for a student who struggles with planning. Love my work and want to give? Click here! To support me, please CLICK at the bottom to share. Click here to visit my official YouTube Channel & subscribe if you want! Thank you — Seth Reading the … [Read more...]

An email template for end of college semester

Here's an email template I made for one of the college students I do executive function coaching with, who was taking a 9-week, online, summer class. We did this at week 6 when she told me she was concerned about her pattern of giving up at the last minute. I discussed it with her before I wrote it, then emailed it to her, then had her send it while we were on a call (for accountability). We worded it to give the teacher a bit of background and to ask an easy, open-ended and useful question that … [Read more...]

Is your child a “Grey Zone Kid”?

Please *click* above to share. Thanks, Seth Some students are in the "grey" zone and the school won't provide the needed support because of this. This often happens with 2e or twice-exceptional students. Here's a perfect example: "Hi Seth, I heard about you on the Tilt Parenting Podcast. My son is in 6th grade and having so much trouble with organization. He has ADHD and high anxiety and is highly sensitive to boot! But the school will not grant him a 504 because he is “too smart”. But … [Read more...]

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