Parents, teachers, therapists, I have gotten this question so many times, “Isn’t everyone a little ADD?”
Um, no.
In this new vlog I explain why, talk about if there is actually a GIFT of ADD, how we all have EF challenges at times, brain development and how when we are misinformed, we can make things worse even though we’re trying to help.
In gratitude and service,
Seth Perler
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Thank you for sharing Seth. I struggle to be patient with my ADD husband and child.
Seth, I think that you are a magnificent trainer. You are a champion. You speak so eloquently and with such passion and enthusiasm about the whole subject of ADD, Neurodiversity, etc. You communicate clearly, in a variety of ways, ensuring that your message illuminates your truth, and it comes across so sincerely, from your heart, because it is from your own experience and insight.
I fought for the understanding that I knew my daughter needed during the late 1980s and 90s here inEngland, when she was simply branded as a naughty child who wouldn’t concentrate or settle to classroom tasks. It was a David and Goliath combat, and I was indefatigable. I persisted through thick and thin, knowing that the school’s opinion was but a fraction of the evidence of a much deeper issue. Eventually I took her out of school and devised my own intervention strategies, with sound success, before returning her with new confidence and self-understanding a year later. It was still uphill, of course, but the transformed mindset became more and more powerful during senior years. How I would have loved your support during those struggles, Seth!! You are such an inspiration! Thank you, most sincerely. MKSW
Hi there – mom of 5 and my entire family has executive function difficulties with varying degrees of ADD. All are gifted and have tremendous strengths. While sometimes it feels like EVERYONE has these difficulties – it has become apparent to me through the years that we do not process in the same manner as everyone else. Other families – even siblings of mine and my husband – just don’t get why our kids don’t respond to typical discipline and consequence. My family absolutely needs to understand the problem from all angles before we can try to implement solutions – and then it becomes a battle against resistance to find the solution that works. Then that version of a solution does not work for every kid – because they are all different. It’s exhausting.
But – one of the most helpful solutions has been identifying the difficulty. It has also been helpful to hear that resistance is something we can call out. This is a journey for us at trying to learn how not to disable ourselves from our best life. I look forward to more from you Seth.
A have a friend who says she has ADHD and has had many jobs and many struggles. She has had counseling for years. She thinks I might have ADHD. I asked my Psychiatrist son and he replied, “maybe a little.” I taught preschool about 30 years and only had one student who was diagnosed with ADHD, and it was after he left my class. He hurt kids in the class, but there was something endearing about him. I dislike being diagnosed as much as the person who has ADHD hearing the statement, “Doesn’t everyone have a little ADD?” I have noticed that kids who have lots of screen time seem to have a harder time paying attention to learning. They even play differently. I think all people have trouble seeing each other as different in their perceptions and yet the same in needing to be seen. I really have appreciated all you have brought to parents and teachers and even grandparents to help us understand ADHD. My friend is always trying to help me understand her, and I feel I have grown as a result.
Thank you Seth this vlog is very helpful. Here is my question- If a person has EF difficulties does that necessarily mean they have ADD/ADHD?
ie Is EF one of the symptoms of ADD/ADHD?
I think there are so many ways/ techniques to deal with ADHD and wish you would list and address specific ways.
Some examples:
I write on my hand to remember daily things.
I repeat over and over the item I am looking for when going in to another room to retrieve it, otherwise, I always forget.
I have mantras like “little by little” for overwhelming tasks and “do it when thinking about it” to not forget to do things from paying bills, to paying back friends etc.
I put my keys on, next to, with an item I need to remember as I can not leave without my keys. the funniest is when I need to remember to bring food, I put the keys in the fridge! For students it can be to put things in their backpack or if they have keys, the same as me….
I know I have more but can’t think of them now. but it would be so interesting to hear about other people’s ADHD hacks!!!!
I feel my ADHD helps me run my crazy vintage store, which is kind of an organized mess, but I juggle so many things all the time…
I also want to say how much I love your videos and your energy!!!!!
Thank you for all you do!!
I’m a female adult and always wondered if I have ADHD with inattentive subtype. Is it important to get a diagnosis for this? Why or why not, and HOW?
I appreciate this video and the things that you teach us so much! It is always uplifting when someone recognizes our true condition.. ie. a disorder that interferes with our quality of life. Not because that’s what we want to hear to not be held accountable in things but it actually encourages us to work harder on our strengths and feel less guilty about our weaknesses. So to me, validation is a motivation. And it is a heart lift as well. It feels wonderful to be understood.
i have a couple videos ALL about this, scan through the blog roll, they’re pretty easy to locate!